š½#8: Essential items for a long road trip with 2 kids under 5
Toilets, iPads, wrenches, and cheap barware
I started to write this entry on Thursday at around 4pm. I was detailing all the ways in which we were super prepared for our big roadtrip earlier in the year. Weād spent months prepping and planning to be away from home for 4 months. I started to think ādamn, we are GOOD at knowing what to do and whenā. I soon thereafter left to pick Nora up from school. As soon as I walked into the school I saw that today was picture day. We had sent her to school in pants that are too small, her big sisterās old shirt (also too small), and a messy pony tail covered by a ball cap. Megan and I like to give the impression that we know whatās going on but usually weāre totally fucking clueless.
Anyway, letās talk about toilets shall we?
Traveling with 2 little kids on such a long road trip means you have to be real, *real* serious about what you bring. In this spirit Iāve compiled a list of the MVP, runner up MVPs, and āeverything elseā that we could fit into the our car (essentially the same cubic footage as a normal sized closet).
The MVP of our Trip
Right now most of you are thinking āthe MVP of the trip is an iPad. has to beā. And while this is a good guess (the iPad is in the runner up category below), the true MVP of this trip has everything to do with the fact that we decided to embark on this journey with a kid freshly escaped from shackles of having to wear a diaper. Nora Muehleman was admitted to the halls of those who pee in toilets just 2 months before our trip. Naturally, we decided it would be a good idea to celebrate this life altering graduation by strapping her into a seat and driving her in a car for 9,399 miles. We went back and forth the weeks leading up to the trip on whether or not to put her in a pull up while we were driving. On the one hand we would be able to drive for longer stretches, making more efficient time with our trip. On the other hand, the idea of a kid we spent 3 days potty training possibly regressing because we were too lazy to pull over every 2 hours felt like taking two steps backward. So we took this mini potty.
I have an entire album on my phone that is called āNora peeing in the back of my carā. I will not share it here because Nora will grow up one day and discover this newsletter and then move out of our house never to speak to me again. So Iāll just say that it is a collection of about 25 pictures of us pulled over on the side of the road in Joshua Tree, Salt Lake City, somewhere outside of LA, Yellowstone, at the second lowest point in the US (Salton Sea), in the middle of the Grand Tetons, Bryce Canyon, in front of a bunch of hoodoos in Southern Utah, and a variety of other places. We kept the potty in the Thule always towards the edge for easy and methodical extraction. At the beginning of the trip, it would take me about 10 minutes to unlock the Thule, get the potty down, get Nora out, let her go, put her back, put the potty back, and then close the Thule. By the end I had this down to about 3 minutes to the point where I vaguely looked like a Formula 1 pit crew.
By the end of the trip, we started to use the portable potty less and less as Meganās attempts at training the girls to pop-a-squat became more effective. We were in Grand Teton National Park when Nora successfully peed in the woods for the first time. Itās occasions like this that I like to commemorate.
MVP Runner Ups
These following items may have not demonstrated the utility of the porta potty but they were invaluable for 1) keeping young children amused in the car or 2) giving dad something to drink his jameson and ginger out of when hanging out by the pool
iPad
Look yāall, Iām not gonna take up your time with how fāing great the iPad is on a roadtrip. They are fāing great. Here is something I will say though. On our first 1 month roadtrip in November of ā20, Nora was just barely 2 years old (and pre potty trained). The iPad was lost on her. Sheād watch maybe 10 minutes and then want someone to entertain her. However, on the big monster roadtrip, she was about 4 months older and all of a sudden the iPad could hold her attention for an hour or so. Lily, then 4, could watch the damn thing for 8 hours without needing to stop for water, food, or sanitation. Sheās an iPad watching machine.
Extremely Cheap Cafeteria Glass
My friends and family know this about me but I am extremely queasy around things that are āfancyā. This could be the result of kids making fun of my knock off Starter Jacket in 8th grade or the fact that Iāve been politely asked to āwait in the barā at multiple country clubs because I was wearing denim (these were meetings with investors. I donāt wander those places by choice). But I prefer the ā¦ lesser fine things in life. And for some reason this extremely cheap cup that you can get any Lubyās cafeteria reminds me of home. I use it on weekends to mix a Jameson and Ginger Ale (Red Rock Ginger Ale only. IFYKYK). It probably sheds enough BPA to help me grow a 3rd nipple but I love it. When we were packing, this was a no brainer. And I used the shit out of it on our trip.
Everything Else
Toys
Ok, unpopular 21st century opinion here: your kids donāt need as much shit as you buy them. Kids are imaginative. They will bitch and moan about being āboredā (my trigger word) but give them somewhere with an outdoors and they will find shit to do. In Palm Springs it was a few climbable trees in the yard. In SLO it was a weird creek they could wander around. In Driggs it was a long easy street they could ride their bikes on. So donāt bring that many toys. Theyāll find shit to do. That said, Megan did have the genius idea to tell the girls they could spend $5 at a Dollar Store at whatever town we hit next. This meant we didnāt need to pack much and they could buy cheap stuff that felt new and fun.
Tools
I packed a small array of tools that fit into my glove compartment. When youāre on a 1 week roadtrip to the beach, you donāt need much. Odds of you encountering something weird are pretty remote (unless youāre headed to Florida). But when youāre on a 4 month roadtrip traversing the Mojave Desert, Southern Utah, and Los Angeles, any kinda damn thing can happen. A wrench, screwdrivers, and a set of allen wrenches are good to have (we ended up using all of them on our trip).
Electric Skillet
Before kids I probably made a grill cheese or quesadilla once every 15 months. Post kids I am the Gordon Motherfāin Ramsey of quesadillas and grilled cheeses. And the number one tool in my arsenal is an electric skillet. It also makes pancakes AND it is super slender, fitting into all kinds of nooks and crannies in the car. You have to take one. We used it 3-4 times a week on our trip.
Apple TV / Amazon Alexa
The key to a long trip is getting in fast, getting settled, and finding tiny comforts of home. For us that was bringing our Apple TV and our Alexa. We are the type of family that spends most of our day listening to music and then weekends / evenings watching some TV. So having these devices allowed us to easily have what we typically listened to and watched at our finger tips (honestly we bring this shit on short trips too)
Shoes
Youāre gonna write about shoes right now TJ? Yes, yes I am. Shoes take up a lot of real estate. I took 2 pairs of shoes and a pair of flip flops for 4 months. One pair of shoes was a pair of old Nikes (what I ended up wearing to my step dadās funeral. a story for another newsletter) and a pair of Hokas. For those unfamiliar, Hokas are trail running shoes but I wore them for hiking, farting around town, riding bikes, or whatever. They are versatile, comfortable, and relatively affordable. We visited 8 national parks and I canāt tell you how many people I encountered that were dressed like they were about to climb Mt. Kilimanjaro but were actually going on a .75 mile hike around a lake. If youāre doing back country hiking, bring the fancy hiking shoes. For everything else, get something comfortable you can wear to anything (even a funeral).
Advice from a Lady (Megan)
I was telling Megan about this newsletter and she started to rattle off all the stuff she wish she hadnāt of packed and then I was like āhello, this is a DAD story. get your own newsletterā but then I thought some of the advice was good so Iāll pass it along to my lady friends:
Donāt pack all of your make-up. All you need is mascara (honestly Iām 44 years old and Iāve been married twice and I still donāt know what that is)
Leave the nice clothes at home
Bring layers (good advice for dudes as well)
Donāt forget the MA roller (ol girl has a bad back)
Hopefully this list will be helpful for those of you planning to take your young children on a multi state, multi month, long ass road trip. Which is probably zero of you! But for real, this trip was fantastic and thinking through the packing list made everything a little more manageable.